Loving Who You Are

Loving who you are is one of the most powerful abilities you will ever allow yourself to have. Period. If you love who you are then your chances of success, wealth, happiness, finding your ideal partner, being in a loving relationship with your partner/significant other are so much higher that it begs the question of: Why would you not want to learn to absolutely love yourself, even if you did have to go through a little pain in the first instance to get to the pleasure of being 100% in love with yourself?

Well, the obvious answers come. "You can't love yourself, that's just arrogant", "You must love others before you love yourself", "I must love God/Ala/Buddah above all", "Loving yourself is for tree hugging hippies". Well, I'm here to tell you today that in order for you to get your ideal life (the life you imagine being the perfect life you've always wanted) you sure as heck better start with creating a foundation of self love. Tony Robbins, Donald Trump, Mother Theresa, Mike Pero and any person you may look at as a success in their field all have a deep, underlying self love which leads to a self respect which non "lovers of self" often lack.

How then, does one love themselves if they don't now? Well the first part is to start by building an awareness around who you see yourself as being. Do you see yourself as beautiful, successful, healthy, loving, warm, motivated, financially free? Once you build a self awareness of where you are now, you can start to devise an idea of where you want to be, in terms of loving yourself. Many times lack of self love comes from a feeling of I'm not good enough, and often these feelings flow right through life, even into our career. Working in areas where you love what you do can absolutely assist in maintaining the feelings of self love. Working with folks who also love what they do will also assist in solidifying your self love.

Head to http://www.lovethelifeyoulead.info to find an opportunity where you can have all this and more.

Loving The Life You Lead

It’s one of those cool things to realize that you have complete power and control over your life, your decisions, your choices and your destiny. Getting to that point can sometimes be more challenging.

As a huge proponent of Loving The Life You Lead, I am absolutely committed to assisting others in doing the same. Here’s a few tips to get you started on getting really passionate about what you do…

• Find your passion – It’s surprising that so many folks are not clear on what it is that they’re passionate about.
• Socialize with people you want to be like – If you can’t find them in person, read biographies of people who have done things you find inspiring, have achieved a goal you want to achieve or who have characteristics you want to possess.
• Treat yourself – Human beings love being treated… so it’s important to feel treated! Now, even on a shoe string budget you can treat yourself and make yourself feel special.
• Visualize and talk about your future life as if it’s already yours. You’re not lying! You’re creating certainty in doing this!
• Contribute to others – Find a way that you can help others, especially if you feel like crap yourself. Helping others creates this amazing oozing of positive emotion in us that’s make you feel just so damn good! For a funky way to contribute that can make a HUGE difference in YOUR life click here.
• Go into nature – Now, I’m not saying you need to go “HUG A TREE”. What I am saying is that being in nature is such a revitalizing, decalcifying experience that you’ll likely come walk right into loving your life, or at least get insight into HOW it is that you’re meant to do so.

The tips are simple – Implementing them however, is the part that requires slightly more effort on your part. So ask yourself today, do you love the life you lead? If not, what are you committed to doing to make a positive change in your life.

Many of the folks that I work with and mentor worked long, unrewarding hours in professions they really were impassionate about. They wanted to find a purpose (greater than themselves), they wanted to contribute but didn't know how they would be able to at the same time as paying the bills, living their life, raising their kids etc. Now, I have a team of folks who love their lives, contributing to others through their efforts and living a life filled with passion. Now, if I was you I’d want to know what they know that you don’t. Click here to find out just how easy it is!

Helping Others in a NON Judgemental Way

Anyone following me in these blogs and online pretty much knows that I’m totally into helping others live a life that they love…so that they really and truly love the lives they lead. These followers will also know that I like to give “food for thought” in these blogs so that you can get a wham bam thank you ma’am lesson and be on your way…

Today I want to touch on JUDGEMENT. We all judge! It’s natural…and we do it, researchers say, within 1.2753 seconds of seeing someone (Ok… so I made that statistic up…but you get the point?!)

I had a funky experience that occurred in my life months ago… but has stuck with me as a learning tool since then.

I was walking down the street in Christchurch (most likely to or from a café) and I saw a man drooping over a chair who, I judged as someone who may appreciate some financially assistance. I totally believe in tithing…and do it regularly, so the notion of giving money to a stranger is not foreign to me.

This is where the lesson started.

I asked the stranger if he wanted some money.

He said “Why?”…
Not wanting to JUDGE I said to him… “Just because…I thought you may want some”
He said, “Ok… that would be nice”
Then I handed him $5 to which he said, “Thankyou”.

I wished him well and headed on my merry way as I wanted to walk away without a big scenario.

He followed…asked my name…I told him…he re-Thanked me… THEN I can to the end of the street…and had to wait at the lights… there was no getting away from him without obviously making a run for it…

He re-thanked me… and I said, “Honestly, it’s really fine. I just hope you spend it on something that makes you feel good” to which he said… “Yes… I will… I was thinking of grabbing a beer before I went home”.

OK…So that was totally not what I thought the $5 was going to be spent on…but I quickly realised that I gave the money…wanting to help…and how he chooses to spend the money once it’s his really is his choice. It’s not how I would spend it, but that doesn’t matter.

This whole scenario was such a fabulous lesson in judgement… and how we judge others. Most of the time… we actually judge OTHERS negatively because of some short falling we see in ourselves.

I dare you to OBSERVE yourself for a week and see how you judge instinctively. Write a big “J” on your hand in a permanent marker as a reminder. You might just learn a lesson that will change yours or someone else’s life for the better.

Till next time, Love The Life You Lead.

Liz Benny

www.LoveTheLifeYouLead.com

Decide For Yourself

WOW! So here's the scoop! A while ago now I went out to meet a couple of friends on a lovely Sunday afternoon. It was actually the first time I'd met up with them officially (after meeting them in a cafe... No surprises there, right).

This particular afternoon I had a major ah ha moment...as my afternoon at a cafe (which would normally cost around $15-$20) ended up costing that...AND $60 for the parking ticket I got!

Why did this happen? Well... to learn a VERY cool lesson of course (being the master of changing the meaning I put on things).

Here's what happened...

• I drove into a car park...
• saw a few pay and display parking meters...
• saw loads of cars parked in the same area I was about to park...
• questioned weather I would need to pay on a Sunday (not a normal day to pay for parking here in NZ)...
• found that officially I probably should pay because I was in a private area...
• then saw that over 50% of the other cars HAD NOT PAID...

So...I didn't either. I walked away and started thinking about what I was going to order...MMMmmm Coffee....

See what I did? I TOTALLY MADE MY DECISION BASED ON WHAT OTHERS CHOSE TO DO!!!

In this case...BAD MOVE! But...It got me thinking about life and about how many and how often people actually do this. I used it as a very cool lesson for myself...and you can to.

WHERE in your life are you just following others decisions? Maybe when you order food at a restaurant you wait till the end to see what everyone else orders ... and then order the same. Maybe you're in a career that you hate but feel you should stay in, because everyone else does. Maybe you're content with you're mediocre lifestyle, because that's what your mates all do.

It's time to question yourself. REALLY!

The COST of NOT doing so WILL likely cost a bucket load more than my silly $60 fine.

Decide for yourself! I choose to Love The Life I Lead... and am passionate about assisting others in doing the same.

Till Next Time, Love The Life You Lead!

Liz Benny

Owner and Director, Love The Life You Lead

What Legacy Are You Gonna Leave?

Ok...Let's Get Into It!

Today we're talking about "LEGACY". I'm reading "The Ride of a Lifetime" by Paul Teutul, Sr, of Orange County Choppers, at the moment. What a primo book...and boy oh boy has it got me thinking about life, business, success, happiness, family...and loads of other good things. On the back of this book Paul has given readers a list of practices/mindsets/activities that business owners can use to run a kick ass business like OCC. The one that really got my attention was this, "Leave a legacy - the way you lead today shows others how to lead tomorrow".

Now this book is primarily written for business owners, like me...however the topic of Legacy is applicable to anyone, mum's (mom's) at home with their kids, accountants, lawyers, farmers...anyone.

So here's the deal...What legacy are you going to leave? How are you going to lead to assist others? If those are hard questions, think of it this way:

• When you're laying on your death bed...what you gonna be SO very proud of having created/done/achieved/made?

Or if you 're the type of person who doesn't like the idea of laying on death beds...then...

• When you're 40, 50, 60 years old...and you reflect on the life you've lived...what is it that you're so amazingly proud of having created, done, achieved, made or (insert your own word)?

I Dare You To Take 10 minutes of your day, right now, to stop what you're doing and contemplate on your legacy. There's no "right" or "wrong" answers! For some people it's about being the most amazing mum/mom, for others it's about being the next Mother Theresa. When you're done with answering the questions, be sure to join me on Monday next week (Monday 19th April 2010) at 10:30am NZ time. I'm hosting a radio show where we'll investigate more about Legacy's... Head to BlogTalkRadio for more information.

Till next time folks, love the life you lead...and in theme with today's blog...Live to Leave a Primo Legacy!

Liz

www.LoveTheLifeYouLead.com